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Gentle Erotic Energy

Wednesday, June 12th, 2013

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I made progress with erotic energy this week. And I learned more about energy around the human body.

It started when a lover, E, showed me how she does erotic energy. We’ve talked about it before, and used it before, but I hadn’t watched it closely before. I’d been… caught up in the moment previously.

The energy itself was obvious, easy to find. I connected to it, then wanted to see which types of cells were involved — my hypothesis was that the energy related to nerves, since it affects sensations, so I expected E’s erotic energy to connect to her nerves.

(This is all using sensory connections. I would be quite unable to research these techniques without them.)

But her energy didn’t connect to her cells. More importantly, it didn’t directly connect to any tissue. This was something new for me. Let me back up, so you know what was new, and why it matters.

I first encountered the body’s energy in the context of energy healing, in the mid-2000s. My goal was to send healing energy to a particular tissue: Cartilage in a knee, or tendons in a shoulder. Large shifts, precisely targeted. So, I found the energy very close to cells, corresponding to particular types of tissue in a particular location. Call this “inner energy.”

Call this new energy “outer energy.” That’s what E was using. Rather than corresponding to one type of tissue, it’s an amalgamation of all the person’s inner energies. It’s easy to get to: Just start at inner energy, and go away from cells. Except I’d never gone that way, because my whole point in energy healing was to get closer and closer to cells, to have larger, more precise effects.

But it turns out, when you go away from cells, all the different inner energies mix, and you wind up with one overall energy for the person. When another person touches you, their outer energy influences your outer energy, particularly if they’re actively building energy. And when your outer energy changes, it affects your body as a whole, rather than affecting one particular tissue in one particular location.

Outer energy isn’t great for energy healing: You don’t want to distribute your energy healing over all the person’s (healthy) tissue, and you don’t want a long path between your change and the cells, since the longer the path, the slower your magick will work. (I know this from much testing and experience with energy healing.)

But outer energy is perfect for erotic energy. It affects the person as a whole in a smooth, gentle way, which should get rid of the jaggedness and unevenness of my previous attempts. And affecting your own outer energy naturally affects the other person’s outer energy — there’s no additional steps needed. That’s simple enough that most energy workers would stumble upon it without much testing, which suggests that this is the method that most folks use for erotic energy.

Why wasn’t outer energy in my model before? I simply hadn’t looked for it. I’d always looked in toward cells, not out toward other people.

Which brings me to a question: Are there other components of standard models of magick and energy that you work with that aren’t in my model? (Chakras I know, but any others?) Thanks!

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Erotic Energy: A User’s Guide

Friday, February 8th, 2013

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I recently wrote about erotic energy — that’s energy for producing sexual pleasure. It was a theoretical, experiment-focused series, written for someone experienced in direct magick.

Yvonne asked for a more practical, beginner-friendly explanation:

I got lost. I don’t know if there was not enough practical detail, or too many cross references, or that they lacked a consistent outcome. (what worked that one can try at home? what should we avoid? what exactly happened with the failures and successes? Is it really “safe” to drop shielding when doing energy work outside of the aura?)

Let me see what I can do.

I’m New Too

I want to start with a disclaimer: I’m new to erotic energy. These techniques are based on about a month of experimenting. I expect I’ll be doing erotic energy differently a year from now.

That said, I hope you find this post interesting and useful, at least as a starting point for your own studies.

My Basic Technique

In my previous posts, I tested several variations of three main techniques. That’s how I work: Juggling several possibilities, refining as I go. There’s simply no way to know the answer before you start testing, so I wind up testing a little bit of a lot of things to see what works. But I can see where that would be hard for readers to apply to their own practice.

So, here’s my default technique, as of today:

  • If you shield, drop your shields. If you do advanced shielding that differentiates between shielding your body vs shielding your mind vs shielding from ethereal software, only stop shielding against connections to your body, and leave the other shields in place. (If you’re not sure, that means you probably do single-purpose shielding, so just drop the shields. Or if you don’t shield at all, skip this step, I guess.)
  • Engage your mental muscles for building and moving energy in your body, and ask them to “mirror” your partner’s energy, then “send” that energy back to them. Once it’s easy to do this as a whole for your body, think about doing it once for your head (mirroring their head’s energy), once for your groin (mirroring theirs) and once for the rest of your body. (If you like chakras, you could talk about your head chakra and your root chakra.)
  • (To learn to engage particular mental muscles, learn mental posture.)
  • Adjust signature. I didn’t talk about this before because I do it by default, but you want to mirror your partner’s current signatures, not just the signatures they were in when you started mirroring them. This is more about keeping those mental muscles engaged and paying attention than it is about issuing any specific command, at least for me.

Note: If you just want to enjoy the energy yourself, you can keep your shields up and simply mirror your partner’s energy. This seems useful in two situations:

You’re just learning this, and want a smaller technique to start with. Just mirror their energy, enjoy yourself, and try the whole technique later.

Your partner is also mirroring your energy in themselves, so you are both taking care of your own pleasure. Then there’s no need to send energy.

What You Should Expect

An energy orgasm — that is, an orgasm brought on by energy, rather than physical stimulation — feels slightly different than a normal orgasm. It has the same buildup, release, and bliss at the end, but it’s more in the head and body, and less in the genitals. For men, it doesn’t result in ejaculation, and it’s easy to have multiple energy orgasms.

Making out with energy orgasms can be as good or better than sex without energy orgasms. “As good as” referring to both the pleasure in the moment, and to feeling satisfied and satiated afterward. After several orgasms while fully dressed, one partner made the comment, “Now that’s safe sex!”

By the way, sex with energy orgasms is fun, too.

Currently, it seems I need energy plus some level of physical stimulation to produce an energy orgasm. Not genital stimulation, though that works, but kissing and caressing and so on.

(Eventually, I’d like to understand how energy produces sensations in the body well enough that I could create orgasms solely from energy. Not because that seems particularly useful, but because that level of understanding probably leads to other useful techniques. It’s a back-burner project for now, but as I get better with erotic energy, I’m keeping an eye out for techniques that might work.)


Yvonne asked if it’s safe to drop your shields. The short answer is, Yes, just remember to do some sort of cleansing afterward to remove the other person’s energy. (Grounding should work for these purposes, as will this shielding technique.)

The longer answer gets into a philosophy of safety, which I’ll leave for another post.

(Slightly longer reply here, 2nd to last paragraph.)

Testing with a Non-Mage

Since the last erotic energy post, I’ve had the chance to test this with Q, a non-mage who is interested in magick, but hasn’t yet started practicing. Results:

Unlike the energy workers, Q did not notice when I simply dropped my shields.

Q did notice (and enjoy) when I actively sent energy through my hands. She found it pleasant, but not overwhelming, meaning it’s unlikely to produce an orgasm even if we were making out.

Q also noticed an advanced technique where I built energy in her body, rather than in mine. The neat part about this technique is that you first build the energy behind a shield*, then release it; the person doesn’t feel much until you release the energy, at which point it becomes obvious. I didn’t tell her any of those details, of course, and I gave no indication of when I released the energy — I was still and silent, and standing behind her, so she couldn’t see my face — and she moaned a second after I released the energy. She had been slient until then. For me, this is a nice confirmation that she was actually feeling the energy, and not responding to placebo or suggestion.

*It’s not actually a shield, but that’s the closest I can get without writing a whole series about this technique. I’ll do that series if this technique turns out to be particularly effective for some useful problem, but I haven’t used it enough yet to know.

Based on these results, I’d say that the technique in this post — “Drop shields, mirror and send” — would be pleasant for a non-mage, but unlikely to produce energy orgasms. But that’s just a guess based on one data point. If you test it, please let us know.

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Testing the 3rd Technique for Erotic Energy

Monday, January 21st, 2013

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This past week, I’ve tested 3 techniques for erotic energy with 5 friends. Today, we’re discussing the results of the 3rd technique, and my thoughts on future work.

We’ve already discussed the 3 Techniques for Erotic Energy and the results of two techniques. You might want to review those before continuing.

Results: Connecting to Nerve Activity Layer

This is the advanced technique that I’m developing. And I have good news and bad news.

Good: This technique produced clear and obvious sensations to all 3 test subjects, and seems flexible enough to produce a variety of sensations.

Bad: The sensations were often neutral, or generally less pleasant than simply dropping my shields.


I actually developed this technique as I tested it, resulting in three different versions. Let’s discuss each test.

With O, I simply made connections throughout her body. The connections were the same as I use for energy healing, and were not focused on any particular tissue. (I made a lot more connections than I use for energy healing, though.) After connecting, I activated the connections, to let them transfer that activation to O’s body.

Results: O found these connections pleasant, but preferred the drop shields technique.

With R, I specifically connected to the part of his energy corresponding to neural activity throughout the body. Again, I used normal connections like I do for energy healing, then activated them afterward.

Results: R said it felt odd. I asked him to explain, and he gently shook my body back and forth, and said it was jittery. I’ll call this mildly unpleasant.

I tried a second time with R, intending to make the connections and activate a different signature, which should produce a different sensation. It didn’t work: He felt jittery as soon as I made the connections, and it continued as I sent the activation.

There are two conclusions here:

  • I’m pleased that the sensations were so pronounced. Producing enough of a shift in neural activity is hard, so this seems to be a step in the right direction.
  • But I need to develop better control for the signature of the connections themselves, so that every step uses a signature that feels pleasant.

I focused on that signature with M, my third test subject. I had her send energy to me, then I copied that signature when making my connections. She liked it, said it was more pleasant than drop shields, but that drop shields was more pronounced. (She found drop shields a bit overwhelming.) So, I’ll call this a partial success: It was precise and pleasant, but wasn’t as pronounced as I’d like.

Future Work

Through these three tests, you can see me moving from a very general technique (with O), to a technique targeted at specific tissue (with R), up to a technique using a specific signature (with M). This is what it’s like to develop these techniques: Lots of little adjustments, lots of iterations, and a fair amount of trusting your plan even when the results get temporarily worse, like with R.

In the rest of this section, I’m going to give you a peek into how I think about developing techniques.

The key, I think, is knowing what signature to deliver, and then making connections that are already in that signature. That way, the connections feel good, and when you activate them, they deliver that signature to the person.

(Quantity might also be important: We might need a dense enough network of connections, each carrying more activation that I use now, to produce large sensations. But when I do energy healing, it’s all about getting the signature right, and I don’t worry about using lots of energy, so I expect that getting a clean signature will produce a more noticeable result here, as well.)

Knowing what signature to deliver should be fairly easy: I can get a person into the desired state, then copy the signature of their neural activity layer. Do this with a handful of people, and I’ll get a general idea of the right signature to produce the sensation. I’ll need to get better at reading and copying a signature, so I can do a whole body in a minute or less, but getting faster is usually just be a matter of practice, which is much easier than developing a new technique.

Second, I’ll need to get better at creating connections that have a particular signature, rather than the default signature I use for energy healing. I did that with M, but it took more focus than I’d like, to where I’m not confident I got her entire body. But this, too, should be a simple matter of practice.

So, those are my two skills to practice: Reading signatures, and creating connections in a signature. I’ll do that for a month, then return to this technique.

Questions? Ideas? Comments are open.

Update: I boiled this series down into a practical, beginner-friendly post.

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Testing 2 Techniques for Erotic Energy

Friday, January 18th, 2013

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This past week, I’ve tested 3 techniques for erotic energy with 5 friends. Today, we’re discussing the results of two techniques. We’ll discuss the third on Monday, along with plans for future work.

We discussed the 3 Techniques for Erotic Energy on Wednesday. If you’re fuzzy on the details, you might want to review that before continuing.


I tested two methods with each person. (One method wasn’t effective enough to test with everyone, and one method I didn’t develop until halfway through.) I asked each person for feedback: How did each method feel? Was it pleasurable? How did it compare to the other method? Each test was separate — subjects did not observe other tests. I did not discuss the particular techniques or my expectations prior to testing.

Two trials were done with only hugging, two with kissing, and one with more sexual activities. Subjects were four women and one man in their 30s and 40s. All were experienced with energy work.

For anonymity, I’ll identify each subject by one letter.


Mirror and Send

This was the first technique I tested, and I already told you that N found it pleasurable. But when I did the same technique with E, she didn’t feel much of anything.

E actually brought up that lack of energy over dinner, asking me what was going on — apparently, she normally feels energy even from non-mages, but didn’t feel any from me. This is what got me to test dropping my shields, which worked well for E. (Details below.)

I went back and tested dropping my shields with N. She found drop shields much better than mirror and send, too.

So, I’m knocking mirror and send off my list for working with a partner. It’s simply ineffective if you are thoroughly shielded. It’s still excellent for safely experiencing euphoria and energy orgasms through shields, though.

Incidentally, I had no problem getting results once my shields were down. But if you find you’re not getting results, it could be that you’re making energy in the wrong signature. In that case, combining mirror and send with drop shields might work well. (Or, if you don’t normally shield yourself, then I guess you wouldn’t need to drop them.)

For info about the shielding, see this series. My shielding is a bit more thorough, but that’s the gist of it.

Drop Shielding

Dropping shielding has become my gold standard for erotic energy. I tested it with all 5 friends, and all reported it as pleasurable. All but one* reported it as their preferred method. And when making out with a partner while dropping my shields, she’ll experience orgasms from the energy. (I do too — if you’re curious (and I bet you are), it’s more in the head and body, less focused on the genitals, and does not cause ejaculation, but can be just as satisfying as sex. Which I think is one aspect of tantra, too.)

*M preferred the third method, connection to the nerve activity layer, saying that she was a bit overwhelmed by the energy when I dropped my shields. But I think that was because our relationship is strictly platonic, and that the overwhelming-ness would have been good in a romantic context.

So, 5 for 5 on pleasurable, and causes orgasms when making out. Why not just use this technique and be done with it? Two reasons:

First, I don’t see where to go with the technique. You drop shields, let your energy flow, maybe target particular parts of the body. But then what? You can’t program this into ethereal software, since it doesn’t have a body. You can’t easily target particular tissues, like nerves, which may be important for making this work with non-mages, or for generalizing the sensations into pain management and other fields. And you’re limited to energy signatures your body produces — maybe that’s not important, but I don’t know yet. The point is, I don’t just want a technique that works, I want a technique I understand and can build on, and this isn’t it.

Second, the “impure junk” Yvonne asked about. Each time I’ve dropped shields and connected to a person, I’ve gotten a headache the next day. When I look around my body, I’ll find small structures, left by the other person, and when I remove the structures, the headache goes away.

(By the 4th time, I figured out to find and remove the structures before I got the headache. Yes, it took four times — no one ever accused me of being a fast learner.)

A quick refresher: Energy is activated particles of magickal structure, and activation is like heat, carried by those particles. My friends didn’t intentionally leave those structures, it was just the natural consequence of absorbing their energy: Once the activation had left those particles, I was still left with the particles.

With mirror and send, you don’t get these structures because you’re not absorbing energy, you’re just activating the structures you already have in a different signature. That’s why you don’t wind up with these structures (the technical term for “impure junk”) in your body.

Now, most people (who don’t have shielding) pick up these structures all day and don’t think anything of it — I didn’t notice it for years, either, but I remember learning to shield and clean the structures out, and how much better I felt after, and how surprised I was that it made that much difference.

This problem alone wouldn’t kill the technique. It only takes a minute to remove those structures. But it’s another reason to find something better. And, combined with drop shields not seeming to lead anywhere, and the fact that I don’t like dropping my shields in general, this technique is great to get a feel for what erotic energy can do, but it’s not the technique I’m looking for.

Note: I also tested a thin shield that would stop structures but transmit activation. It didn’t transmit enough to be noticeable to the 2 friends I tested it with, so I stopped using it.

This post is already over 1,000 words, so I think I’ll pause here. Next post, I’ll discuss the results of the third technique, and my thoughts on future work.

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3 Techniques for Erotic Energy

Wednesday, January 16th, 2013

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This past week, I’ve tested 3 techniques for erotic energy* with 5 friends. I’m going to review each technique in this post, then discuss the results next post. Then I’ll wrap up with a discussion of my future work.

*As Ananael points out, when most writers say “sex magick,” they mean “magick driven by sex.” So I’ll use “erotic energy” for “energy that produces pleasure.”

The Techniques

Mirror and Send

This is the technique I talked about last week, where I could feel the euphoria of the energy at a dance by mirroring its signature. The “send” part is where you send the energy you made into your partner.

One item to clarify: This doesn’t actually build energy in the signature of the other person / of the room. Instead, it changes the activation of the magickal structures already in my mind and body. (If that didn’t make sense to you, review this post.) This will become important later.

Drop Shielding

This is the simplest technique: You stop shielding yourself, and allow your energy to mix with the other person’s. Most people aren’t shielded in the first place, so this would be the default technique for most people.

(Yes, there’s more to it: You want to build and control your own energy, know where you send it in their body, and so on. But I’m not conscious of those things. For me, it’s really just a matter of dropping my shields and letting the rest happen.)

Note: You don’t actually have to drop all your shielding. When I shield, I set up one shield for connections to my physical body, another for my mind, another for connections to ethereal software, and a few others. When friends experienced with erotic energy would show me the energy they wanted to send, it was all to my physical body, so I’ve only been dropping that shield.

Connect to Nerve Activity Layer

This is my first draft of a direct magick technique, consciously stepping through the process of creating these sensations. Much like my healing techniques, I’ll connect to the person’s body and send specific signatures to specific tissues.

The first version of this technique should simply replicate what experienced practitioners already do. Then, once we know we have all the pieces working, we can change some steps to produce different sensations. But before we think about creating something new, we should make an explicit, consciously-controlled version of the existing technique.

By watching experienced practitioners, I can see that that their energy primarily interacts with nerves, and specifically, with the nerve’s activity, rather than the cell’s overall state. So, I know I want to connect to nerve activity structures. For my first draft, I’ll just send the signature in my own body — the same signature I’d send by dropping my shields.

(And for anyone wondering what happened to last year’s project on making magick that non-mages can feel: A future version of this technique would solve that problem, too.)

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An Engineer Talks Sex Magick

Monday, January 7th, 2013

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Sex Magick (n.): Magick used for sexual pleasure.

Last post, I talked about experiencing euphoria from mirroring the energy around you at a dance. Today, I want to talk about the same mirroring technique in the context of sex.

The basic technique is the same: Engage those same mental muscles (the ones for physical effects like energy healing), mirror your partner’s energy, and optionally, send that energy back to them. The command I give those mental muscles is “Mirror and send,” while thinking about her energy. You’d do this while making out, or while doing other activities.

Do it right, and the energy can create a mental orgasm — the feeling of an orgasm, without ejaculation, and without the exhaustion afterwards that’s common for guys (at least, in my experience).

I’d experimented with this in the early 2000s, and triggered orgasms in several partners without any physical stimulation. A friend commented that it seemed like I’d derived some part of tantra. But then I changed how I worked with energy, focusing on affecting particular types of tissue rather than blanketing an entire area, and lost track of how to build the overwhelming amount of the right energy I was using to trigger orgasms.

But in the past couple of weeks, I’ve had dates with two women into tantra, and following their lead, I’ve found the technique again. Or, some of the technique. It still feels horribly unfinished — effective but inelegant, tossing energy around rather than applying just the right signature in just the right spot, and like there’s so much more I could do with it if just I understood it a bit better. Which, of course, I’m working on. But that’s for another post.

For now, I want to share a technique, and a caveat. First, the technique:

Simply telling your mental muscles to “Mirror and send” the person’s energy works well enough, but I got better results from more precise signatures. I’d mirror her head’s signature in my head, her groin’s signature in my groin, and the signature of the rest of her body (as a whole) in the rest of my body. Conceivably, you could do more signatures, but remembering back to my work from a decade ago, I focused the energy on the head and the groin, so it made sense to do it here, too. Doing all three signatures felt better to me, and she responded more, too. If you’re already distracted doing one signature, stick with that, but if you can easily do three, it’s worth it.

Note: Both in my old work and now, simply focusing energy on the groin is ineffective. I’m sure the women in the audience will tell me this is obvious, so let’s assume I’m only talking to the guys right now.

Now, the caveat: One partner loved this, and another partner found it wasn’t enough energy for her. With her, I had to drop shielding on my body and let her connect, which creates its own set of problems. I’ll talk about that next time, as I answer Yvonne’s questions about protection and keeping unwanted structures out.

(And one more caveat: I’ve only tested this with people who already use energy in an erotic context. I would expect it to require some modifications to work reliably with non-mages.)

For completeness, there’s another definition of sex magick: “Using sex to raise energy, then channeling that energy into magick,” or something similar. I’m ignoring that because, in my experience, raising lots of energy does not result in more effective magick.

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